Matthew 8:18-20 “And when Jesus saw great multitudes about Him, He gave a command to depart to the other side. 19 Then a certain scribe came and said to Him, “Teacher, I will follow You wherever You go.” 20 And Jesus said to him, “Foxes have holes and birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay His head.” NKJV.
Luke 14:28 “For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it” NKJV
Wisdom is the principal thing in everything that you do. It takes knowledge to apply wisdom. In your relationship, apply the wisdom that is from above through your commitment. Commitment in any relationship will mean exposure or vulnerability. Many want to have a relationship but they are not willing to be vulnerable. A very important thing that you need to consider before going into any relationship is your ability to be emotionally present. This would imply that you have carefully considered before entering in.
If you do not carefully consider before investing your life in a relationship you will invite continuous crisis.
It was not every scribe that came to Jesus to have a relationship it was a certain scribe. There must be a level of preparation and maturity before you go into any form of relationship.
When the certain scribe came to Jesus to have a relationship, Jesus Christ said that foxes have holes. The terrain of the fox is the ground and what it reverts to in the time of crisis is the hole.
Jesus Christ is telling the man that for this relationship to work you must be ready to leave the terrain that you are used to and stop reverting to what you used to do in the time of crisis.
Sometimes in marital relationships, when there are challenges, “some people revert to the proverbial hole” they shut down. Communication cease. Jesus Christ is saying with you and I, this cannot work. For others the hole that they revert to is their caustic mouth—they just say all manner of things and start even cursing.
Others revert to shopping. They go and spend the money they do not have so that they can have temporary happiness.
If you decide to go into the hole, your relationship stays on the ground.
Leave the terrain that you are used to—the ground. This implies the vision for the future. Some people are not willing to achieve greater things in life they are content to not even stay on the ground they reside in the valley and God is even saying that if you want to stay on the ground go for the mountain.
Jesus Christ said, “birds have nests… Some are in relationships but they have not left some nests—In a marriage relationship, it could be the nest of Daddy, Mummy and siblings.
Everything that is done in the home has to be validated by the siblings and parents. You are welcoming calamity. Parents and siblings should try as much as possible to stay away from homes and dealings in the homes most especially in young marriages.
When Jesus said, foxes have holes and birds of the air have nests, he is saying authority and decision-making might be surrendered. The decision of a fox or bird to go to their holes of nest is unquestionable. In a relationship those things might need to be surrendered. Instead of it being automatic it becomes consultative.
Many people have wrecked business relationships because they want to always have their way. Others opinion is not being considered.
Even in a marital relationship as a husband, it is important to consult with your wife. She is your help meet not your doormat or rubber stamp.
Phillip was having a nice time before he was told to go to the desert but he was eventually promoted after he obeyed.
A good relationship will take you further than your thoughts because it will add value to you. It is anything can happen depending on whether you are paying a premium or making monthly instalments.
While a hole or nest can be qualified or quantified, Jesus was telling the scribe that the kind of relationship I want to have with you cannot be quantified or qualified. It is a no eyes have seen nor ear heard….kind of relationship.
Any good relationship depends on the mind of your expectation—a shared vision. If you want a hole or nest type of relationship you will get it but it is better you go for that which cannot be limited.
While the size of both holes and nests can be determined but the capacity of accomplishment or the goodness that can be accomplished with a well cultivated relationship is undeterminable.
It is a journey that requires preparation and commitment. Check Ruth and Naomi
It is very important for you to note this, Jesus Christ said, foxes have holes but birds of the air have nests…. Foxes are not the only animal that runs on the ground there are countless others but it is only a fox that was chosen for illustration but for the animals that fly in the air, no specie of bird was mentioned. What is Jesus Christ trying to say?
What you want will determine the challenges that you encounter and ultimately what you get in any relationship.
If all you want is to stay on the ground, the only challenge that you will get is the fox. Take care of anything “foxy” in the relationship and you will overcome every difficulty.
For those that want the relationship to leave the ground and be flying, you will get different types of birds, the raven, the vulture, the sparrow, the eagle, etc. While there could be more challenges, but overcoming them will lead to more accomplishments.
Foxes are known to be cunning, so Jesus is saying that no matter how cunning a party in any relationship is, such can be “holed” i.e. dealt with. There is no challenge that you encounter in any relationship that cannot be dealt with if you follow the son of man that has nowhere to lay his head…