March 11 2018 0comment

THE COST OF RELATIONSHIPS – PAY THE PREMIUM

Matthew 8:18-20 “And when Jesus saw great multitudes about Him, He gave a command to depart to the other side. 19 Then a certain scribe came and said to Him, “Teacher, I will follow You wherever You go.” 20 And Jesus said to him, “Foxes have holes and birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay His head.” NKJV.

Luke 14:28 “For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it” NKJV

There are various levels and types of relationships. There are about 3 main levels of relationships:

” Individual or Personal: This is mostly between two people. It could be friendship, partnership or marital.
” Medium: This involves more than two people and it could also be a business relationship
” General: This involves multitude of people.

In all the three levels of relationships the expectation differs based on the level. The personal touch in an individual relationship should not be expected in a general relationship. It is important that you get your expectation right so that you will not be disappointed.

While there can be a form of “baby sitting” in a personal relationship, you should not expect that in the other levels of relationship. Though you are obligated to explain in detail what, where and when in a personal relationship, you are not obligated to do so in a business relationship.

If you take your vacation days, you do not have to tell your boss or colleagues where you are going. It is a time tht has accrued to you and you do with it what you chose to do including staying at home if you cannot afford to take a trip. It is your prerogative.

Types of relationships can include: Marital, Family, Business, etc.

It is important to realize that everything is relating with something and everyone is relating with someone. For the beauty of the flower to show forth in a room or hall, an appropriate vase is needed. They compliment each other. For the seed to bear fruit, it must have a relationship that is conducive with the soil. The soil provides the proper habitat while the seed as it takes nutrient from the soil not only replenishes the nutrient from the soil but it also provides covering from erosion.

No matter the potential in the seed, the soil must be appropriate. In inanimate relationship, no matter the beauty of the floor tile, there must be a good tiler to bring about the beauty.

Also, no matter how endowed whether intellectually or spiritually humanity is, divinity has a prominent role to play.

“I am the Vine, you are the branches. When you’re joined with me and I with you, the relation intimate and organic, the harvest is sure to be abundant. Separated, you can’t produce a thing.” (John 15:5, MSG)

“O Lord, I know that the path of [life of] a man is not in himself; It is not within [the limited ability of] man [even one at his best] to choose and direct his steps [in life].” (Jeremiah 10:23, TAB)

A proper relationship with divinity enhances the beauty of any destiny.

For any relationship to flourish, it must be a symbiotic relationship where both parties are givers. It is a complementary not a competitive one.

When you realize in any relationship that you are in destiny’s path, you are not only willing to count the cost but you also pay the price.

You discover that many do not count the cost of any relationship i.e. they are not willing to find out what it will take to make the relationship work.

There are few that take time to find out but chicken out.

One of the reasons why many marriages are being endured and it is filled with turmoil is that the only cost that they have counted and this in great detail is the cost of the marriage ceremony (suit, wedding gown, venue, choice drinks, music, décor, etc) but not the wedding journey (the actual activities in the day to day coexistence).

While the cost and worth of the ceremony or fanfare is mostly monetary the cost of the journey or “faithfare” is everything (financial, physical, emotional, spiritual, intellectual, etc)

If many put the same effort into the ceremony as they put into the journey their marriage will be doing well today.

In the few that count the cost, you discover that they are not willing to make the down payment so they have not been able to fully move in though they are supposedly married. They are still window-shopping. They are actually at risk of losing their deposit.

Amongst those that make the down payment, you have those that make monthly instalment and those that pay a premium. These are two different things.

While a monthly instalment connotes just going with the flow because it is just a matter of obligation and there is no attachment and connectivity but in those that pay a premium, everything in them is “invested” in the relationship. It is a whole life commitment.

A premium not only shows your commitment and connectedness i.e. you are looking forward to something and someone always but an instalment type of attachment can be regarded as a chore or burden.

Connection in a relationship will involve displacement for distinction. You may not be able to do it the way you normally do it before the onset of the relationship but you know that it is for an ultimate good.

Connection could also mean disappointment. In a symbiotic relationship, you are exposed to everything about the other party in the relationship and you could be disappointed by your discoveries in the journey but you are not disillusioned.

“In every way we’re troubled, but we aren’t crushed by our troubles. We’re frustrated, but we don’t give up. We’re persecuted, but we’re not abandoned. We are captured, but we’re not killed. We always carry around the death of Jesus in our bodies so that the life of Jesus is also shown in our bodies.” (2 Corinthians)

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Dedicated, Innovative, Anointed, Compassionate, Prayerful, Humble, Holy are few of the words that come to your mind when you want to describe Tayo Ojajuni. Tayo Ojajuni gradually discovered the essence of God in his life. His journey to the service of God would unfold sooner than later when he was made the acting pastor of The Redeemed Christian Church of God Covenant Chapel, Toronto Canada in 1999. His vision is to Redeem Destinies and Restore Dominion. He firmly believes that as a child of God body, soul and spirit we are marvelously made.

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