Text: Luke 14:28 “For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it” NKJV
Matthew 8:18-20 “And when Jesus saw great multitudes about Him, He gave a command to depart to the other side. 19 Then a certain scribe came and said to Him, “Teacher, I will follow You wherever You go.” 20 And Jesus said to him, “Foxes have holes and birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay His head.” NKJV.
Every human being has a strong need for connectivity and belonging, that is why we often hear a saying “no man is an island”, people need people, hence the essence of relationships. The relationships that we are in at this time is by choice and not by force, Amos 3:3 “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” NKJV
There are some basic principles that are important for us to know and understand about relationships, having the knowledge of these principles will assist in making our relationships glorious, enjoyable, pleasurable and rewarding. It is important for us to know and understand that every relationship is at a cost – business, marital, professional or friendship relationship. The cost of every relationship will depend on your objective or aim, more appropriately what you want to build.
God desired to have relationship with us and it cost Him – John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life” NKJV.
Luke 14:28 “For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it” NKJV. Jesus Christ was talking about building a tower, a tower is a tall structure. The cost of building a tower is not the same as the cost of building a bungalow, definitely the money you will spend on purchasing the materials for building a tower will be more than the materials for a bungalow, when you think of both structures, they are both good but one is still much better and bigger than the other. Likewise, in any relationship, it is important that you aim for the best but remember the best will cost you.
There is a difference between counting and knowing the cost, many people know the cost of a relationship but not many people are able to count the cost. What does it mean to know the cost? Knowing the cost is a general knowledge of the total amount, the purchase of a tower will cost $20,000,000, that is the total amount that will be required for the purchase. What is counting the cost? Counting the cost is understanding what it takes to arrive at the $20,000,000 price for the tower, meaning the cost of each material e.g windows, doors, lighting, the components of how the architect and surveyor arrived at that amount.
That’s how it is with relationships, it’s not just knowing that I want a good relationship but understanding the components that is required in having a good relationship.
Jesus informed the scribe that approached Him in Matthew 8:18-20 “And when Jesus saw great multitudes about Him, He gave a command to depart to the other side. 19 Then a certain scribe came and said to Him, “Teacher, I will follow You wherever You go.” 20 And Jesus said to him, “Foxes have holes and birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay His head.” NKJV.
Jesus was inadvertently asking the man “I hope you understand what you will be getting yourself into by requesting to follow me”. There is no shelter for me even though the animals that my father created have a habitation but I don’t. Are you willing to make that sacrifice knowing what you know that if you follow me you will not have a place to place your head? Are you ready for that kind of sacrifice? Jesus gave him the blueprint of how the relationship will be.
The same question can be asked of us, are you ready to bear the cost of having a relationship with Jesus?
Are you ready for the challenges that might lie ahead due to this relationship with Jesus?